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Are you kidding my kid? Or is it just a bad day?


We are talking more and more about bullying, but generally coming from the victim's side. But what if our child sins others? In general, where is the border between bullying and more or less normal childhood behavior?

Every parent wants his or her child to be kind, cooperative, friendly, and helpful, yet most of all we have seen children hate, blame, and mock others. The schoolgirls are jerking, fumbling, turning the game out of the other hand. Young children worry about names and spread malicious rumors. Brothers and cousins, too, are able to live with each other if they are in the right mood - we try not to teach them how to support each other.Are you kidding me or are you just in a bad mood? Some of these behaviors belong to normal development, because the little ones still haven't learned how to handle and control their feelingsand the larger ones are just now breaking the rules of community life. And of course, let's not forget that everyone can have a bad day at times, and it is easy to say it to others. However, one of our important tasks is to zaklatбsrуl, bullyingrуl.

But what is bullying?

Bullying ownership, which is difficult to define in Hungarian, means long-term, intentional, and targeted, repeated harassment, profanity, and punishment within the peer group, also characterized by subordinate relationships. Aggression can be both physical and psychological. One of the most important differences between currency bullying and everyday conflict is that power imbalance is bullying, whereas conflict is a matter of mutual agreement between the parties.Bullying is repeated, voluntarily aggressive behavior. One child is constantly looking for (or just creating) opportunities to punish, humiliate, and show off his or her power.

So that you won't be bullied by a bad kid

  • Discuss more with your child, make short, accurate inquiries about the day. Who did you play with? What did the player do? Who was sitting next to at lunch?
  • We try to observe the child when he is with others. The answers you give to our queries do not necessarily reflect the full currency, and if we see what behavioral patterns we have, we can better control our queries as well.
  • Let's talk about how others can feel. Power over the others is sensible, but kids also need to be aware of what it is like to be on the other side. If you find that you are disgusted with others, ask him how the other one might feel or how he would feel in a similar situation.
  • Notice how flexible your child is, is he / she able to let go of everything right for him / her, or are you ready to subordinate everything?
  • If your child speaks to others, what words do you use? How common are negative, malicious, degrading comments? Do you tend to think everyone else is stupid, slow or lousy, putting yourself above the rest? Of course, these sentences in themselves do not mean that your child is harassing others, but they may warn you to focus a little more on empathy.
  • Communicate regularly with your child's teacher and teacher - if you feel like it, even outside your reception. It is especially important to worry about behavioral patterns at home as they may be present even when the child is in community. Let's not forget that educators see a lot more children than we do, so what we may think is that we are completely "ordinary", that is, we are often more effective in recognizing the age-specific phenomenon.
  • Let us have well-defined rules and clear boundaries: let the child know what we consider to be acceptable behavior and what is not. The child may behave aggressively or ruthlessly simply because he does not know what he is doing is wrong. But teaching him the rules and ignoring them regularly, voluntarily ignoring them, is definitely something to work on.
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